Ministry Involvement and Boy-Girl Relations

I don't know if anyone reads this anyway, but here goes some thoughts I have had lately. I don't want at this stage to dwell on them deeply, but they probably need to be said.

1. Boy-Girl Relationships are hard work
The apostle Paul even says so in 1 Corinthians 7:32-34.

The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided.

2. Ministry is purposeful hard work

And he gave the apostles, the prophets, the evangelists, the pastors and teachers, to equip the saints for the work of ministry, for building up the body of Christ, until we all attain to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to mature manhood, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ, so that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ, from whom the whole body, joined and held together by every joint with which it is equipped, when each part is working properly, makes the body grow so that it builds itself up in love.

3. Boys are often task focussed

4. If the task does not indirectly involve their girlfriend, there is a risk of the girl feeling neglected
This is probably especially so when the couple are both active in ministry, but in different gatherings. What may often appear to be a God-centred decision is not necessarily honouring him in our relationships.

4A. There is not always a simple fix to this problem.
The Lack of "real" commitment in dating relationships does no-one any good. The primary commitment to home and church can lead to awful tensions while you still live under your parent's authority. For a relationship like this to work, both sets of ministry need the support and informed consent of the other partner. - Maybe once again the easy/correct answer here is sadly going to be singleness if you want to maximise current ministry effectiveness.

5. Please pray for young leaders in our gatherings, they need great wisdom in managing their time and involvement.

6. Holiness and faithfulness should trump involvementness
The temptation to be a "super-minister" who can be helpful at any time and in every way, hopefully building others up, is quite strong when you have time, energy and limited responsibilities (ie. When at Uni). Unfortunately, this is not a good model for a lifetime of service. As much as it hurts to consider it, the bible is clear that leaders need to do things like

He must manage his own household well (1 Timothy 3:4)

and

if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God's church? (1 Timothy 3:5)

7. I am struggling with this issue a lot
I am not really sure what is needed here... If our "involved" people are in relationships, and I am sure this should include ones not yet at marriage, should we simply let them see how it all works? Would it not be great for wiser and older counsel within our University groups and churches (especially those of our leaders who are married) to assist them, and to ensure that they are balancing their responsibilities.
In the end, I am sure this will have a much greater benefit to the uni ministries, and to the lives of the servants, than simply having more relationships fail because the girls felt neglected as their guys did too much ministry.